A Father’s Grief
by Jason Kimble
When Heather and I lost Hannah, it created a whirlwind of emotions. We went through all sorts of anger, sadness, grief, and so much more. But through all of this, I observed something. Fathers and Mothers go through very different kinds of grief. I know there are things that are similar and we have both lost, but there is something that is different about it as a Father.
Having lost Hannah, my wife and I were both face with the longing to have our daughter back. Here is the part where it’s different for me as a Father. As a man, it is my instinct to want to be able to find a solution to a problem. I want to be able to fix things. I can’t fix this. There is nothing I can do to make this right. I can’t make this better. This makes this so much harder for me to handle. Why is nothing I can do to fix things. I want to be able to. I want to be able to make things right. I want to be able to take away my wife’s pain. This is what makes the grief even harder for me. Realizing there is nothing I can do and dealing with that fact makes it even more difficult to stomach.