One of The Reasons

One of the Reasons

by Jason Kimble

a9443-1267761_18513271When we lost our daughter in December of 2013, my wife and I knew that we wanted to do something to help others who were faced with the same difficult tragedy that we had just gone through.  We wanted to be able to provide people with help and support.  We wanted to be a place people could turn to when they felt that there was no one they could look to for help.

That is part of why we are doing it.  The other part is the awareness piece.  People do not realize that this sort of thing happens as often as it does.  And when it does happen, they don’t know how to react.  For some reason, they view the loss of a child as different then another type of loss.  I am not sure why, but people seem to think that in the case of stillbirth, miscarriage, or fatal diagnosis, it is something different than any other loss or death people face in there lives. 

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Amazed that I survived…

Amazed that I Survived

by Jason Kimble

4db07-blog1Last week I wrote a post about the approach of a day that could be pretty scary for me.  Father’s Day approaching brought up a lot of feelings and caused a little anxiety for me.  I had told myself that I would not allow the things that happened to me detract from my day or the pride I should feel as a Father.  I am here to report that I did indeed survive. 

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And Then Comes Father’s Day

And Then Comes Father’s Day

by Jason Kimble

46ba1-2320b-wSo, here comes Father’s Day.  When we first lost Hannah, I didn’t really think this sort of thing would be an issue for me.  Father’s Day seems to be one of those holidays that doesn’t get nearly as much air time as Mother’s Day, so in my mind Mother’s Day had a better chance of being tough.  Now of course the holiday is approaching and it’s a lot different then I anticipated.  I realize now that I have the pain of losing my daughter and that I am a Father with out a child, I notice all the commercials and all the cards and all the ads in the stores that say “Father’s day is coming, do something special for Dad.”  At first I let it roll off.  I just ignored the fact that it was coming.  But I realized that they keep hammering it and hammering it.  And here I am and what am I supposed to do?  I don’t get to have that first Father’s Day moments with my daughter.  That was stolen from me. 

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What It’s Like – Part 2

What It’s Like – Part 2

by Jason Kimble

cemetery-roses-1349445-640x428So I thought I would cheat a little.  I want to talk about something that piggy backs on to what I had written last week about the insensitive comparisons people make.  The day after I posted my piece, I saw something on Facebook that had was a news story being shared by the local news station.  The story was about pet memorials.  The teaser for the piece read something to the affect that our pets are like our children and losing them is like losing a child.  Of course I was offended by reading it.  I thought to myself, “How can they write something like that without thinking.”  This is not just something that would be offensive to me or offensive to people in my situation.  What if your child was a soldier killed in battle?  Would they make that comparison?  But it seemed no one had thought about it.  At first I was just going to let it go.  Chalk it up to another one of those “dumb things people say.”  I was going to let it roll off my back and not let it be something that bothered me.  But then I realized, if no one ever says anything how can we expect it to be fixed in the future?
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A Father’s Grief

A Father’s Grief

by Jason Kimble

efa0e-40288_9212When Heather and I lost Hannah, it created a whirlwind of emotions.  We went through all sorts of anger, sadness, grief, and so much more.  But through all of this, I observed something.  Fathers and Mothers go through very different kinds of grief.  I know there are things that are similar and we have both lost, but there is something that is different about it as a Father. 
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