Reuniting in the Baby Loss Community
by Julie Erickson
Recently, I have noticed a concerning trend in the baby loss community, one that I know is going to ruffle some feathers just by its mention. It seems that moms who were once united in their suffering are now beginning to divide themselves into smaller factions, stating that people “don’t understand” their loss, or that it “isn’t the same” as someone else’s. Continue reading
When Enough is Too Much – Victoria’s Story
by Victoria Salerno
There is so much that happens in your life after a loss, things you never even *think* about. I promised Heather and all of you when I joined that I would be 100% honest and share everything, good and bad, easy and difficult.
The last two days have been d.i.f.f.i.c.u.l.t. Both days ended in tears and little sleep after hard conversations with my husband. If you had asked me five years ago if I would ever have to discuss the possibility of us not having our own children, I probably would have looked at you as though you had five heads.
Not have our own children?…..
Friendship – Victoria’s Story
by Victoria Salerno
I have mentioned before, and it comes as no surprise, everyone grieves differently. In the end, however, we all need someone to lean on, to help us get through our darkest days. I always have my husband, but since he grieves differently (which I discussed here), sometimes it is better for both of us if I have someone else to talk to.
Behold I will create new heavens and a new earth. The former things will not be remembered, nor will they come to mind, But be glad and rejoice forever in what I will create.
1. The gallery of your life is filled with emotional paintings. Share about your painting for each of the stages of your journey – Hiding, Suffering, Questioning, and so on.
Hiding – A black hole painted with black, grays, and charcoal colors. Subtle hints of whites throughout – God is ALWAYS there.
Suffering – The heart is broken into two pieces. It’s covered in blood. The is empty, but the emptiness represents the excruciating pain. The heart is on a white background – God is ALWAYS there.
Questioning – A black question mark surrounding by all of my unanswered questions. God is ALWAYS there.
Forgiving – The sky over the ocean. The first half is bright, colorful, and beautiful as the sun is shining and the water sparkles. The second half is dark, void of most color, but in the corner the moonlight is shining, providing light in the darkness – God is ALWAYS there.
Relating – Two people embracing with a hug. Sometimes that is all that is needed – God is ALWAYS there.
Seeking – God’s right hand reaching down from the Heavens to me; to hold my hand and guide me – God is ALWAYS there.
2. Now examine each painting. Do you see God there? Contemplate His strength in each of those areas. Praise Him for who He is. With your new eyes, perhaps a few new brush strokes are in order.