One of the Reasons
When we lost our daughter in December of 2013, my wife and I knew that we wanted to do something to help others who were faced with the same difficult tragedy that we had just gone through. We wanted to be able to provide people with help and support. We wanted to be a place people could turn to when they felt that there was no one they could look to for help.
That is part of why we are doing it. The other part is the awareness piece. People do not realize that this sort of thing happens as often as it does. And when it does happen, they don’t know how to react. For some reason, they view the loss of a child as different then another type of loss. I am not sure why, but people seem to think that in the case of stillbirth, miscarriage, or fatal diagnosis, it is something different than any other loss or death people face in there lives.
Happy 4th of July?
by Jason Kimble
Happy 4th of July to all of you!
This is generally one of the times of the year I would really enjoy. There’s fireworks, barbecues, street fairs, the weather is great and there is tons of great food to eat. However, this year as holidays come and go, they tend to be very bittersweet. What used to be a time of celebration has now become a reminder of what “should have been.” Today, I should be taking my daughter to Good Neighbor Day at Kerr Park. It should be her first 4th of July. She should be having her first experience with fireworks, which I am sure would be a little scary for a baby. But I don’t get this experience at all. Instead I get reminded that my daughter is gone.
Permanent Grief and Sadness
by Heather Kimble
Once a person goes through all 5 stages of grief, that doesn’t mean these stages will not appear again in the future. Sometimes certain stages will take longer to work through. There’s no time limit. It’s important to go through each stage and not try to avoid them, no a matter how painful or uncomfortable they may be. I believe that grief and this sadness will never go away.
What It’s Like – Part 2
by Jason Kimble
So I thought I would cheat a little. I want to talk about something that piggy backs on to what I had written last week about the insensitive comparisons people make. The day after I posted my piece, I saw something on Facebook that had was a news story being shared by the local news station. The story was about pet memorials. The teaser for the piece read something to the affect that our pets are like our children and losing them is like losing a child. Of course I was offended by reading it. I thought to myself, “How can they write something like that without thinking.” This is not just something that would be offensive to me or offensive to people in my situation. What if your child was a soldier killed in battle? Would they make that comparison? But it seemed no one had thought about it. At first I was just going to let it go. Chalk it up to another one of those “dumb things people say.” I was going to let it roll off my back and not let it be something that bothered me. But then I realized, if no one ever says anything how can we expect it to be fixed in the future?